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Louisville KY Family Law Blog

When a spouse dies during the divorce process

Of all things that happen in Kentucky this year, undoubtedly some instances will include married couples deciding to end their relationships. What happens after that will likely vary according to individual circumstances. However, most people who divorce have a few things in common, such as a need to adapt to new lifestyles and/or restructure their future financial or parenting plans.

Only a few spouses will face extenuating issues that arise when those they are divorcing pass away before the process is finalized. Some who have been through it say it's a strange experience going from a soon-to-be former spouse to a widow or widower overnight. There's a large support network available for those whose spouses die under more "normal" circumstances; however, there doesn't seem to be many resources to help those who were separated when their spouses died.

Don't believe everything you hear after divorce

Developing  new parenting plans after marital ties are severed is a challenge many Kentucky adults must face. Divorce necessitates some major lifestyle changes, especially where children are involved. It's often the case that one parent will hear something about the other, either from a child, a relative or friend, and if he or she acts without first researching the situation to confirm the rumor, things can get pretty messy.

Let's say someone tells you your children were left alone at their other parent's home, and you and your former spouse agreed never to do that. There are several ways to handle this type of situation, some of which may do more harm than good in the long run. Generally speaking, if you launch into a full-out attack against your former spouses without first seeking an explanation, you may wind up becoming entangled in a contentious situation that could cause detriment to your relationship with your children.

Alimony: A quick history lesson on why it exists

Spouses who are forced to pay alimony, and spouses who have the right to receive alimony tend to view the fairness of alimony in a very different light. This is natural. In a lot of marriages, the spouses don't part on good terms, and the last thing the so-called "moneyed" spouse wants to do is send a check to his or her ex on a monthly basis.

All this aside, there is a sound historical basis for why alimony exists and why it continues to be relevant today.

Pros and cons of parenting after divorce

No two Kentucky families are exactly alike, but many have things in common. For instance, some are blended families, comprised of parents who bring children together from previous unions. Others are single-parent households that developed after divorce.

Those in the latter group often say they face many challenges as they learn to adapt to post-divorce lifestyles, particularly as it affects their parenting plans. One woman says she believes she has actually become a better parent in some ways since her marital split. One thing she's apparently learned to do that she didn't do while she was married is directly interact and share activities with her children on a regular basis. 

These options often help people considering divorce

Most married people in Kentucky remember at least one or more things that attracted them to their spouses before they wed. Reasons people marry vary almost as much as those cited when spouses file for divorce. Every couple's situation is different. Some are able to workout their differences and stay together.

Just as various other aspects of life require regular upkeep and maintenance (such as physical health, pet care and/or machines and appliances) a director of a postgraduate marriage program and a couples' therapy group in another state says people must give adequate attention to their marriages to keep them from falling apart. A person who never exercises or doesn't eat healthy may have trouble functioning physically. So too, spouses who neglect one another and never put personal effort into their marital relationships may eventually find their problems irreparable.

How children view divorce when parents get along just fine

It's one thing for children living with both parents to constantly witness arguments between the two people they love most in the world. Night after night, day after day, when contention never ceases, many people decide to sever their marital ties, and children are often very understanding in such cases. However, when parents in Kentucky or elsewhere get along like two peas in a pod, children may have far more difficulty coming to terms with divorce.

It's logical that children might assume if parents get along so well, they should be able to keep their marriage intact. Most parents who divorce try to do so amicably in order to cause a little disruption to their children's lives as possible. However, many may be surprised to learn that children whose parents get along well often struggle more during and after divorce than those whose parents are always fighting.

Divorce may be on the horizon if these issues exist in a marriage

Apparently, Kentucky couples facing marital problems may be more likely to sever their ties if certain issues are present in their marriages. For instance, those who have daughters are allegedly more prone to divorce. Those with college degrees, however, are typically more inclined to keep their marriages intact.

When a spouse is repeatedly unfaithful, either in virtual online connections or in-person affairs, there's usually a high chance the other spouse will file for divorce. Those with higher paying jobs and financial stability seem to divorce less often than those with lower incomes. Also, the wedding day itself is often a factor in divorce.

3 things to consider if you're divorcing with a business

When you and your spouse have worked hard to build up your business, you don't want anything to yank it away from you. If you are married and decide to go through a divorce, there is a chance that you will have to address issues with the business.

There are several things that you must think about, especially if you aren't currently a part of the day-to-day operations of the business. Make sure you think about these three points so that you can ensure that everything regarding the business during your divorce is on the up-and-up.

Divorce, children, Easter and visitation issues

Many Kentucky parents face tremendous parenting plan challenges when they choose to sever their marital ties. Divorce is often a complicated, messy process. Holidays like Easter, that were once normal components of the family's yearly routines, suddenly become focal points of contentious debates regarding who will spend which holidays where.

This week, families throughout the nation will be sharing feasts and fun for Easter. Some parents will be doing so with their children in blended family atmospheres for the first time. Just as many former spouses run into obstacles at Christmas with identical gifts under both trees, misunderstood communication regarding pickup times or where kids will spend the night, etc.; so too do problems surrounding Easter often arise.

How will property division laws affect your divorce?

When married people in Kentucky file for divorce, they typically face a variety of challenges regarding several important issues. At the top of the list (if they have children) are matters concerning child custody. Financial issues are also often the subject of disagreement between spouses (even during marriage); thus, property division laws, child support, alimony and other money topics may add fuel to the fire when it comes to trying to reach an amicable agreement.

As for property division, most of the final decisions in that regard lie with the court, unless the parties are otherwise able to agree. All states operate one of two ways in divorce: either under community property or equitable distribution guidelines. Kentucky, along with the majority of other states, follows the latter system. In fact, there are only nine states in the nation that use community property laws.

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